Wishing for a true lover in life?

By Sandeep Datta, April 18 , 2006

“I wish I had someone to express my love to”--Most of us nurture this feeling deep inside the hearts each morning, but fail to say it to the person it matters the most.

At times we blame on our luck or turn greedy to search for a better option than we have before us. We can blame it on psychology or the intrinsic greed to get fascinated or long for someone completely unknown. Doesn’t it look like expecting the life to take shape as any fictional work of writing does in a novel or book? It seems like longing for someone unseen or unheard of as is shown in almost every other Bollywood movie.

But should our search go on till the feeling to love someone turns a nightmare of life? Or, should we learn to find that person in a calm and composed fashion in our daily life? .

When lyricist Sahir Ludhiyanwi wrote the immortal song of the film Kabhi Kabhi, he would have never intended others to live in reveries and repent for an unfulfilled romantic dream. But most of us do so without realizing the person we long for is usually around. We just need to learn how to recognize him or her. This requires us to close our eyes and recall the presence of those loving individuals who leave their indelible mark on our hearts due to their selfless role in our relation.

Interestingly, most of us long for the best choice on earth but never realise the love is never about possessing someone for a momentary pleasure. It is about according the sincere appreciation, affection and respect for other individual’s presence in our lives. To many it may be not a fair deal. But what’s the beauty of one’s love if it doesn’t evolve an urge to sacrifice the best pleasure just for someone’s sake?


Or, is it simply a convenient medium to cover up one’s lustful desire? Love is far bigger concept than possessing someone without winning a heart full of respect. The physical intimacy may be a part of loving expression but not the sole objective. Irrespective of gender, age or species, we have to have the true affection for others. And, with deep love inside your mind, you cannot nurture hatred for others. You just care and understand others’ point of view.

But it is surprising to notice people await for a day to make others feel it but fail to convey rest of the year. For, we may have never thought what kind of person do we actually deserve. We may be waiting for a handsome macho man or a Hoor from the other world but do we wish to spoil another full year with such vague thoughts. We need to feel his or her presence around us.

You may have been spending most of your time with that special person in life but never realised it. Just think about the person who is always ready to give you and enjoys every moment spent with you. Or, think of the person who did everything but never complained to you for not respecting his or her presence around you in the past.

Just think, think and rethink. The extraordinary person of your life may be just awaiting for you. Realise and accept with open arms his or her affection and sense of care irrespective of temporary physical beauty. Just feel that ecstasy of being loved by someone truly loving instead of chasing someone who isn’t even ready to accept that you even belong to his or her personal world. Nobel Laureate Gabriel Garcia Marquez said: True Love is not blind. It sees everything, and still continues to flourish." Is it really true?